Right now I am thinking I have put too much on my plate. All of this team talk is a little overwhelming and I think that I need to start slow. Simplify.
Family time. Each night after dinner we are going to play one game and read a bit out of a book. Tonight we played princess memory and even doing that I start to get impatient. This is what made me realize that I need to take baby steps. Because usually when I take on too much I crash and burn. I don't want to crash and burn and I figure since I know myself I should probably pay attention to my tendencies.
So, tomorrow we will again play a game after dinner and then read out of our book. We are starting with Charlotte's Web. The girls have seen the movie and really like it so I hope that they will enjoy listening to it, also. It would be great if they develop a love for reading like I have.
Anyway, baby steps, baby steps a good. They will be the key to success in this long journey of change!
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Becoming a Team
There is a reason why Heavenly Father sent us to earth in families. Because to live learn and be on your own would be awful. Well, it is just as awful if your family isn't functioning as it should... and the way it should function is as a team. Working together to contribute and help out when needed, to be there to support, lift up and love one another.
This is my new stage to my goal to become... to become a team. A unit. A family. To do so I want to come up with a family/team name and responsibilities for each member. This way we are all doing our part and because we are tracking what we are doing we can find our weak spots.
" A family team works together in unity, knowing it requires hard work, patience, and huge doses of love."
Huge doses of love... LOVE! With love anything is possible... I believe. So, with that said... I need to love more. And by doing so I can and will succeed in my goal to become... eventually.
This is my new stage to my goal to become... to become a team. A unit. A family. To do so I want to come up with a family/team name and responsibilities for each member. This way we are all doing our part and because we are tracking what we are doing we can find our weak spots.
" A family team works together in unity, knowing it requires hard work, patience, and huge doses of love."
Huge doses of love... LOVE! With love anything is possible... I believe. So, with that said... I need to love more. And by doing so I can and will succeed in my goal to become... eventually.
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Admitting I have a problem...
First things first: The Problem.
When I am frustrated and loosing my patients I think (and sometimes say), "Why are you acting this way? Why are you not listening. Why are you completely ignoring me?" It's hard remembering that the girls are only 4 and 5 years old. But even as I am writing this I wonder if my Heavenly Father is thinking the same thing... Why are you acting like this, why are you not listening, why are you completely ignoring me?
Thinking about this I realize it ins't the girls that are the problem, it is me! The way that I react to stressful situations is impeding on my ability to show the girls I love them and to teach them with love and not anger and inpatients.
It's sad to think about this and admit it, but, I don't have a lot of good memories of my mom. Thinking about it now not one specific instance comes to mind. How sad is that? Not just sad... awful! I don't want that to be the case for my kids. I want them to be able to recall great memories without having to think hard about it and I feel that with the way we are going... it's going to be hard.
So, I have a problem. I don't teach and guide with love. I guess I have the mentality of, "It's my way or the highway", which only makes me like Lucifer. Scary!
So today I have started with love.
Kathrine didn't want to eat what I made for breakfast, scrambled eggs with ham and cheese. Instead of getting upset I asked her to at least try one bite and when she was still refusing I told her that when I was pregnant with Addison that all I wanted to eat was scrambled eggs and ham. She giggled and thought that was pretty funny. And when I asked her again to try one bite she did so with a smile and then admitted that she too liked it.
What a simple way to help her out. I stayed calm and she enjoyed the story. Ahhhh! Like a light bulb coming on. There is no need to yell, get upset, or threaten to solve a problem. Love... it will guide the way.
Addison is proving to be a bit more difficult today. She woke up extremely tired today and because of that she is being very cantankerous to say the least. So right now she is going down for a nap. Hopefully when she wakes up she will be happier and we can continue on with our day of improvement.
Till next time...
My goal, to become and memory maker!
When I am frustrated and loosing my patients I think (and sometimes say), "Why are you acting this way? Why are you not listening. Why are you completely ignoring me?" It's hard remembering that the girls are only 4 and 5 years old. But even as I am writing this I wonder if my Heavenly Father is thinking the same thing... Why are you acting like this, why are you not listening, why are you completely ignoring me?
Thinking about this I realize it ins't the girls that are the problem, it is me! The way that I react to stressful situations is impeding on my ability to show the girls I love them and to teach them with love and not anger and inpatients.
It's sad to think about this and admit it, but, I don't have a lot of good memories of my mom. Thinking about it now not one specific instance comes to mind. How sad is that? Not just sad... awful! I don't want that to be the case for my kids. I want them to be able to recall great memories without having to think hard about it and I feel that with the way we are going... it's going to be hard.
So, I have a problem. I don't teach and guide with love. I guess I have the mentality of, "It's my way or the highway", which only makes me like Lucifer. Scary!
So today I have started with love.
Kathrine didn't want to eat what I made for breakfast, scrambled eggs with ham and cheese. Instead of getting upset I asked her to at least try one bite and when she was still refusing I told her that when I was pregnant with Addison that all I wanted to eat was scrambled eggs and ham. She giggled and thought that was pretty funny. And when I asked her again to try one bite she did so with a smile and then admitted that she too liked it.
What a simple way to help her out. I stayed calm and she enjoyed the story. Ahhhh! Like a light bulb coming on. There is no need to yell, get upset, or threaten to solve a problem. Love... it will guide the way.
Addison is proving to be a bit more difficult today. She woke up extremely tired today and because of that she is being very cantankerous to say the least. So right now she is going down for a nap. Hopefully when she wakes up she will be happier and we can continue on with our day of improvement.
Till next time...
My goal, to become and memory maker!
Monday, October 10, 2011
Starting today...
First off, I want to say, Please don't take this wrong. I love my family! I love my daughters who each day make me laugh and smile, my daughters who brighten my spirit and liven my every day. But these are the same daughters who sometimes frustrate me to no end and on some days... make me want to pull my hair out. That being said...
Have you ever wondered how some families seem so happy? All the time? I do. And I think, "What am I doing wrong? Why do I handle situations so brash and impatiently?" Well, tonight, I am tired of doing it wrong and having a seemingly unhappy family.
So, starting tomorrow I am going to begin my journey to become better! This I know will not be easy. It's like praying for patients... Heavenly Father only tests what little patients you already have. But, no pain no gain, right? So, through prayer, scripture reading and "self help" books I am determined to Become a mom and not just a mother.
Here we go...
Have you ever wondered how some families seem so happy? All the time? I do. And I think, "What am I doing wrong? Why do I handle situations so brash and impatiently?" Well, tonight, I am tired of doing it wrong and having a seemingly unhappy family.
So, starting tomorrow I am going to begin my journey to become better! This I know will not be easy. It's like praying for patients... Heavenly Father only tests what little patients you already have. But, no pain no gain, right? So, through prayer, scripture reading and "self help" books I am determined to Become a mom and not just a mother.
Here we go...
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